Can I be better than I am today? How?

Can I be better than I am today? 

What's your thought? Have you experienced room for improvement? If yes?  In what ways?

Work Hard to change yourself 

First of all, yes, you can always upgrade.

Because Humans by nature are not perfect. If this was a perfect world, then you wouldn't ever face any problems in your life. 

However, we all do have problems. And to tackle that, we need to approach them wisely. What better way than to solve that problem after refining it ourselves?

Come on, we've got a few things we can do every day in our lives to make ourselves happier and better than yesterday.

Be Graceful

Let's take a notepad right now and make a list of things we are grateful for. What were the things you had and he/she didn't? Did you have a nice place to sleep today? Was the food on your table fresh and hot? Do you have more than one pair of clothes? 

Of course, we all have different answers to such questions, but sometimes being grateful for the little things in our lives can relieve stress and help us sleep easily at night.

The Hi! Rule

Smile and Say hi to people you meet every day! Whether regularly or rarely. It's easy. And fun too. If you do this for the first time, you will experience their confused looks when you smile or nod at them. It leaves them wondering whether they know you or not. Eventually, it would become normal. 

Hence, you wouldn't feel lonely or left out. And it would help you develop a better relationship with people you meet. If you were a shy person huddled in a corner in a gathering of people before, now you would shine with your smile! 

Conquer your Fears

Have you ever looked at something and felt an immense fear bubble in the pit of your stomach and wished it gone? What if you can get rid of that feeling altogether? Of course, it's not easy. But facing it is the bravest thing you can ever do. Because just standing in front of something that gives you the shivers is courageous. 

Moreover, by conquering your fears, you've taken another step up. So when you look at it or remember it, you smile instead of cowering in fear. 

Work on physique

Okay, I know this method of improvement is something that is not easy but it is very essential. You have to get up and do some exercise. If you are looking for self-improvement ways, then this is one of the best ways. Because it helps you stay positive and have more energy to take on things for the rest of the day. 

So get off that couch and put on your joggers! It's not too late to sweat the negativity off! 

Take a break from a digital detox

In addition, you really should spend less time using your electronic gadgets. Digital detox is really important, even for a small amount of time. Since it causes us to be socially isolated and get various kinds of illnesses, it's better to spend less time with them. 

Instead, you can go out and admire the things around you. The bright sunny day isn't going to wait for you to come! You should enjoy it while it lasts.

Self Love, Self-worth & Self Respect 

And lastly, and most importantly, you must love yourself. You should accept everything about yourself, the good and the bad. The flaws and the perfection. Because that's what makes you beautiful and shine. You are what you are, and that's what makes you unique and best. 

Move Forward 

Live is a journey. Despite several deprivations move forward. Forgive yourself, and others. Replaying what happened, or reminding ourselves of what we did before, would make it so difficult to move forward. If it's difficult, just remember, it was something that was supposed to happen so you could be the person you are today. 

Eat healthily 

Moreover, give your body the treatment it rightfully deserves. No, this isn't just about spa sessions or manicures. This is about having proper meals, at least one mindful meal every day, nutritious and healthy to your body and brain.  Never compromise the sleep. Sleep at least 8 hours a day

The bottom line, be optimistic. Look at the world in a different light. Maybe the lady who was rude to you was having a bad day. And that's why our smile can help her lighten her burden. 

Let's become a better version of what we were yesterday.

Power of habits and How to create stronger habits?

Greeting...

    Before giving any advice on the ways to build and improve your habits, I'd like to first remove all the ambiguity about the habits because it is misunderstood by many. In the comments section, write the meaning of habits (use your experience and mind, not google😏)

Q. What are habits??

    Our unconscious mind behaviours are habits. In simple terms, they are reflex actions that prevail as a result of our routine behaviour.

 

    Numerous factors contribute towards the formation of habit. Psychologists have aid in several types of research to find out the science behind the development of habits. 

Note: These laws are dynamic because they will be dealing with individuals. 

 But why to change or build a habit? What is the purpose of habit??

That's a nice question to come in the mind, right?

The purpose of habit is to help us solve the problems that we are facing and improve our lifestyle.

Ex: Let's take an example of a smoker who smokes a lot. He is frustrated and is facing a lot of problems and want to change his lifestyle. 

Changing the way of living is one of the most basic reasons why someone wants to develop or build a new habit. 

 

Habits are unconscious consequences in any situation.

Ex: covering mouth while sneezing 

Always remember, it's is difficult to discard the habit compared to initiating new ones. Try changing your bad habits with the good ones. You can influence the whole world if you invest a small amount of time daily in creating strong habits.

If you apply the below-mentioned ways you will be able to create a new habit for sure.

• SOBC + Reward/ achieve what we need or want Model. 

S = Situation

O = Organism

B = Behaviours 

C = Consequences 

When a human behaves in a  particular situation, he will face consequences and those consequences will depict his subsequent behaviour. To make it clear I will give an example to which you can relate. 

Ex: If a 2-year-old child touches a hot pan. His hand will burn. The repercussion of his action will guide his future behaviour. He will think thousand of times before touching any pan again.

You need to know that every behaviour is guided by an effect of the past action. Faster you find your situation faster will be your improvement process. 

• Seed Effect.

Like one seed yield the plant. Similarly, the small changes in your day to day activity will result in the emergence of a whole new habit.

Ex: If you want to improve your diet, then exchange your unhealthy and canned food with healthy food. 

If you want to start gyming in the morning, make your gym cloth and keep them near the bed. It will create an urge to exercise.

Your behaviour is guided as per the situation and the consequence. If the reward you get from the particular activity is pleasing then you will automatically glinds towards it.

Create a proper place, time and situation, follow it dedicatedly till a month and then it will become your habit.

• Be consistent.

One ought to be consistent in his work. His persistence defines the speed towards the route of his success. 

Like one-day workout will never grow muscles, similarly, the one-day effort will not help in the formation of habits.

Use the 1% rule to improve your consistency. 1% rule states that you put 1% effort in every 24 hours. It will help you change. The shift may be gradual but will benefit you in the long run.

• Give priority to goals, not processes.

Always remember to give priority to the important things. If you will ask me then the process of achieving the goals will always be more important than the goals.

Let us assume a situation where you want to score more than your friend. You worked hard to achieve the goal and had achieved it. The outcome will give your satisfaction and once you are satisfied you will stop working hard because you don't have any other goal. This is a goal-based outcome where you have stopped working after achieving your goals.

Now think of a process-based outcome in which even after getting more marks than your friend, you'll work the same hard and become the topper of the School. 

You should always make short and long terms(to keep the process alive) goals and give importance to process 

Process and consistency go hand in hand. Goals are making objectives, the process leads to achieving the goal.

• work more, complain less.

Work is proportional to success, the more you work, the more will be the chances of your success. Complains are inversely proportional to success. Work as much and as better as possible. Complain less.

Try to inverse and improves the area of complaint.

Always remember to be a problem solver, not a problem creator or problem finder.  

• great thing takes time.

Movement in tectonic plates took several years to what we see on earth today. It took millions of year to make a plate-like structure looks like beautiful planet earth as we see today.

 That's why you should always keep patients while learning something new. The great thing takes time.

Always remember, there will be a time when your mind will procrastinate and will say to stop trying.  The mind will give reasons like what if your hard work will not pay off in the future. If this is the case, please remember that what you will do today will help you in future. Dots will connect someday.

• Connecting the dots:

Always think of your long-term benefits. You should always keep in mind that what you do today will help you to improve yourself in long run.           

Ex: cigarette and  alcohol may give you relief in the short term but the opportunity cost of that satisfaction is your health and the life years expectancy.

•   Act till enact: 

Make a fake self as you want to see yourself in reality. Act what you want to do in the future. But always keep in mind that one should never hide his or her originality.

Ex: Act like a topper, plan like a topper, study like a topper, one day you'll become one of the class toppers.

• Start reading a self-help book

    Read answer much as you can. You can click here to know the importance of reading. How reading good books can influence your life.

If you are not a regular reader, then start off with the following books:- 

1.The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

2. Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov

3.The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business

4. Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones

• Environmental Factors:

Interact with the kind of people whom you want to see as your image in future.

Ex:- If you want to become an actor, be with actors, interact with actors on social media, learn from actors.

If you want to become a writer stay with those who like writing poems and stories. Follow and interact with that kind of people who like Writing. Environment plays a major role in the life of a person.

If you are the kind of person who never listens to a Hollywood song, then try changing your group and interact with those who watch it.

If you want to take care of your fitness, start staying with bodybuilders, yoga addicts or with those who are regular gymers (go to the gym regularly). Your unconscious mind will automatically be persuaded to go to the gym.